Making a conscience effort to grow up

Today our Bishop taught from 1 Peter 1:3-10. Basically Peter was writing  to tell the church that salvation was not enough to change them. They have to be actively involved in the change. This subject got my gears to grinding. It helped me to understand why some people are in certain situations. They expect others to help them grow up and mature instead of making a conscience effort to do it themselves. So many people feel it's others responsibility to help them grow and to mature, this is where the "helpless mentality" comes from. "I can't do it because no one has been there for me" or "I can't do it because no one ever taught me". How about you take control and you teach yourself. The time for being helpless and ignorant is gone. There are too many resources out there to help you get on your feet.

The American culture speaks of "pulling yourself up by your boot straps" yet we continue to let people abuse the systems put in place to help the ones that WANT to help themselves. My people, my people!!! Stop blaming everyone else and start doing. You will perish from lack of knowledge. Life will pass you by. Stand up and fight for your right to exist and not only exist but to be fruitful and multiply (not talking about having kids, but about having success in life). No more can you stand by and expect someone else to do it for you, the time is now. Stepup to the plate and get it done. Think about it, you are the only one that can do the job that you were meant to do. That should make you feel special, no one else can do it like you can. If God meant for someone else to do it, it would have been done by now. He's waiting on you. TAKE CONTROL!!! GROW UP and MATURE.

Stop wallowing in self-pity, it's a trap from the enemy. Notice this: those who always linger in self pity, usually have nothing going for them. They are miserable human beings who suffer from an addiction (doesn't have to be drugs either) and talk about the some thing that happened 15 years ago. Don't be that person, live in the now. If there is a quality that you don't have, add it. Peter said "and to this add", which means you can tack it on. You can't sew, add! You can't do math, practice and add! You can't read, add!! There are no more excuses.

This may seem like a rant, but as an educator, I see a helpless mentality all over our kids. They feel things should be handed to them and if it's not done for them then they can't/won't do it. What kind future will they have with this mentality? I can tell you another welfare generation that always looks for hand outs!!! Can't have it and won't tolerate it. So if you see me sternly leading a child in the right direction, don't tell me I'm being too rough. Chances are you are one of the people that need to mature a little more to get to the level where you can lead.

Never let

Here's a couple of never let statements that usually help me out in life:

Never let someone make you feel sorry for who you are.

•     It's the way God made you, as long as you aren't doing the things that are opposite of God's will for your life then you are okay. 

Never let anyone violate your right to live

• you have a right to exist and be, never let anyone threaten that through physical or mental violence

Never give up more than you can afford

• people in this world will take from you until you have nothing left. never let this happen always make sure your star player (that's you) is taken care of. 

Never stay in a place that makes you unhappy

• having an unhappy life leads to unhappy, unhealthy behaviors. When you start feeling like this take steps to make sure you are going to be happy, not just in the short term but also in the long run. 

Never let someone dictate the way you look

• DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO!!! If you want to wear your hair natural do it. If you want green fingernails , do it. If you like to wear purple do it!!! Just make sure it's neat and acceptable (you don't want to lose your job). But do things that make you feel great (once again have to be in God's will) and you won't have to deal with having a dreadful life. 

I have more but these are the only ones I could think of at the moment. God never desired for your life to be miserable. So if you see it going in that direction, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!! 

Love you like I love myself 

How I feel about retractions

This is how I feel about retractions, blahhhhhhhhhh. Okay if I write something in this blog it's because it's the way I am feeling. My posts are not meant to inform not to get friends, I have those already. This is to help women not to make the same mistakes I have made through out my life. So, to retractions on blogs I say poo poo to you :o)

Have a great night

Be true to yourself and others

Now for all you girls wondering how to really love you for who God made you, here's another key. Don't lie to yourself and stop accepting lies from others. This way you can know the true you and not worry about the untruths anyone else has to say to you or about you. That's pretty easy huh lol

Randomly random

Good Morning,

Today's post is going to be a bit random. My mind is all over the place with my summer quickly coming to an end. I am really not ready for this school year to start. Not because I'm a student and I'm having so much fun (I wish). Being a teacher has it's highs and lows. I think at the moment I am at a low in my career, I don't see any progress in myself or the kids. It's kind of frustrating. So I plan on enrolling in school and getting another master's in educational leadership. Hopefully that will give me the satisfaction that I need, if not I think it's time for me to move on.

Okay that was one thing....next lol. I have decided to wear my natural hair for a month. There is no more relaxed hair, only a thick, tightly curly mass of hair on top of my head that I have not a clue what to do with it. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love it!!! I just need to get out the awkward fro stage (my ex's name for my twa). So, after this month, I'm going to go back in the natural hair closet (lol a name a friend gave for wear weave and not your hair) and let it stay under wraps probably until December. I want it to grow as much as possible without me messing it up lol. I can say I have meet a totally different group of people since I did my big chop and went completly natural. I think it's going to be an amazing journey and what a better way to spend my last year in my twenties (Aug. 19, I'll be 29, feel free to email gifts).

So this brings me to my last bit of randomness, turning 29. I'll be 29 in less than a month and this is really messing with my head. I'm still not married, no kids, and I'm still a bit crazy lol. I guess I can't use that as a measure of accomplishemnts but I do. Sometimes, I wonder if that life is ever supposed to be meant for me, or is it just my lot in life to be a career woman without a companion to share it with. My faith tells me keep hope alive, but my experience tells me to forget about it. I know in singleness (not married) I should be perfecting my relationship with God, but this is tough. Maybe I shouldn't be praying about a man and I should be asking God what's my next step. EUREKA!!! I just answered my question lol. So, with this blog I am delcaring officially that I will stop worrying about all that other stuff anf focus on God!!!

So to conclude this randomness, let's recap. I'm sad my summer's ending, my last year of my 20's is officially about to happen, and I'm going to focus on what God wants me to do. That sounds about right lol.

Have a blessed day and remember to love you the way God loves you.

Janae Strickland

Exercise does not equal body abuse

Someone once told me that when I workout I abuse my body, but I beg to differ. I just got off the treadmill and all the stress from the week has been diffused. Exercise is more than keeping you in shape, it's a great way to control your stress level. I know I sound like I'm on a podium pushing the new agenda of "move and stay fit" but truthfully if you just do something physically challenging once a day you will find a since of accomplishment. We all want to feel that accomplished feeling, you know the one that makes you feel like you are floating and no one can touch. For me, I get the feeling of being JANAE WARRIOR PRINCESS,I can conquer the world (cheesy I know lol). Take the stairs, walk the neighborhood, climb Mount Kilimanjaro, do something that will get that heart pumping, breathing faster and deeper, and break a little sweat (it will make you glow lol). Have fun!!!

Getting something off my chest

Well that was a wash, thought it was going to be different but same thing different person. I'm tired of always compromising then feeling like a jerk because I can't do it. I'm sorry if I don't feel it fair that I give up everything and you give up nothing. Relationships don't work that way, it's a two way street. So here's to anyone else who wants a relationship with me, please know I'm good when things are a two way street. I can not understand for the life of me why men think the woman should always be the one to compromise everything. STOP IT!!! That's devaluing her and her accomplishments. Find a way to work it out besides telling her "that's your problem not mine". I'll be 29 this year, single, and proud of it. God has blessed me with so much that if I all have for the rest of my life is to depend on Him then fine. I refuse to not be happy. If you think this is about you, maybe you should think about somethings. If you are trying to be a prospect consider this.....I'M NOT GIVING UP WHO I AM OR WHAT I BELIEVE FOR YOU!!!